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Dascha Polanco – On What She Looks for in a Man & How to Approach a Woman

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Originally published in the January/February 2016 issue of LatinTRENDS Magazine

By Ottoniel Campos

At this point in time I cannot confirm or deny if Dascha Polanco, the amazing actress in the blockbuster hit movie “Joy” starring Jennifer Lawrence and Robert DeNiro, is single, married or in a relationship. But during our last interview, she informed me that she was single and ready to mingle… or something like that. As we approach this Valentine’s Day, it might behoove a few guys to take a bit of Ms. Polanco’s dating advice.

You’re single now and you’re a hopeless romantic with a lot of passion.

Yes, I am.

What type of guy do you like? Te gustan los gorditos, los flacos…?

I like everything. I have a thing for ginger. I go crazy with ginger (red hair) and freckles. Pero como te digo, yo no soy uumm, I’m not superficial. He could be shorter or taller. I don’t look at the physical but there has to be something that attracts me. Like they have to smell good, definitely. Hygiene is very important to me. Like if you talk to me and your ears have wax coming out… like c’mon! My best friend said, ‘You need somebody that will keep you on your toes.’ Because I need variation, I need entertainment. Let’s try new things. Let’s work together and let’s build an empire. Let’s be both established, both busy, but both make time to be together.

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So how can a guy woo you?

Details. Show me attention. Especially when somebody is busy and takes time to call me, or to plan something out, or surprise me. It takes effort to do that. And I think that’s like, whoa! And what [also] sweeps me off my feet is when somebody knows what they want and go for it. And I’m a giver too, honey! I like gifts. I’m putting it out there. I love gifts. I’m tired of giving gifts and not getting it back. For real, so can I get a giver too… jeez! ¿Tú sabes lo que pasa? That I’ve always said that I want somebody like my father. My father always gave me everything that I wanted. From love to the material, to support. I’m still his princess. He’s always told me to have my own things and to be independent, but to treat others the way you want to be treated.

It makes sense. You want to be spoiled so you spoil others. You grew up in Sunset Park, Brooklyn. What do you think about guys approaching females on the street?

There’s nothing wrong with that. But you have to be creative, honey. Because usually if you’re [whistling and hissing] then you have nothing going on for yourself. Pero yo creo que you should approach a female and be really honest [and say] ‘Hey I think you’re really attractive. I want to take you out.’ It is what it is and [the guys] have to take that risk.

Should a guy grab a female’s hand to get her attention?

Ooh, that’s kind of intense. Let’s not touch. No touching.

Should a guy honk his horn from his car at a female walking in the street?

They should not honk like if they were a cab. Especially if you’re in the passenger seat and you’re honking. You should not be in the passenger side trying to holla at somebody.

What about a loud whistle or yelling to get the female’s attention?

You know what? Let’s do it like we’re writing a letter. Yeah, lets stick to a letter format. Dear Ms. Polanco. Can we just say ‘good morning, good evening, how are you?’ It doesn’t even have to be formal. It could be semi formal.

So no hollering, yelling or whistling. Got it. Guys from Brooklyn are usually cool with their pick-up lines. But not all guys are creative and funny. Was there a line that was too weird?

I was at a parade and this tigre me dice, ‘diablo mami you look so good with that girdle.’ I was wearing a dress and apparently he could see my girdle. Yeah, thanks. That’s so not appropriate to put a girl on blast about her girdle. But he was really feeling it too, like, ‘oh yeah that girdle.’ I’m like, yuck.

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10 Fitness Fun Facts You Did Not Know

10 Fitness Fun Facts

Working out, to some, might not feel as much fun as to others. Yet, regardless of the fun factor the results will make you feel and look amazing and the health benefits outweighs not working out at all. So don’t hesitate to work yourself into shape or into a healthier lifestyle.

 

Here are 10 interesting and fun facts about fitness you did not know that will keep you interested and hopefully motivated.

 

  • Did you know that an estimated 22% of American adults partake in physical fitness activities for at least 30 minutes 5 times a day. Maybe that’s why a third of the country is obese and the U.S. rates as the highest obese nation in the world, according to a published study by Lance.

 

  • The word ‘gymnasium’ comes from the Greek word “gymnazein”, which literally means, “to exercise naked.” So don’t complain when you see a guy working out without his shirt in a “gymnasium”.

 

  • Walking at a fast pace burns almost as many calories as jogging for the same distance.

 

  • Even if you have never worked out, you can start a workout routine and become fit and healthier at anytime.

 

  • Exercising is more effective than coffee at increasing energy levels

 

  • It takes about 12 weeks after beginning to exercise to see measurable changes in your body.

 

  • You will burn more calories sleeping than watching television.

 

  • 5 million children and teens that don’t participate in regular, sustainable physical activities in the United States are considered obese.

 

  • Exercise boosts brainpower.

 

  • Working out decreases depression moods and stress levels.

 

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Choosing The Dating App That’s Right For You

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Image via Tinder.com

If you’re looking to meet new people but don’t want your friends to be your wingmen, then dating apps are the way to go. Not only are you in control of who you spend time chatting with, but it’s your choice whether you eventually meet this person or not. After the first date, if the chemistry is nonexistent, then there’s no pressure to meet again. After all, it wasn’t one of your friends who set you up. Of course, the real dilemma then becomes, with so many dating apps to choose, which one do you select?

Because we understand the struggle, we’ve broken down some of the most popular options, explaining what sets each apart:

Coffee Meets Bagel limits you to one bagel (person to get to know) per day. Most users find that this takes the “buffet” feel away from dating apps and gives it a less superficial feel.

Grouper puts a twist on the dating shtick. It’s a social club that sets up drinks and games between 3 guys and 3 girls. There’s a small fee of $20 per person. The first round of drinks is on the app, the rest of the night is up to the team.

How About We lets users propose dates others can opt into. So if, for example, you’ve had this idea of going on a karaoke date, you can write it out and wait to see who chooses to join you in your singing adventure.

Match remains one of the most popular options amidst dating apps. The app matches local users based on algorithms.

OkCupid is promoted as a social network and dating app. It lets you get in touch with people in your area based on interests.

Tinder lets you swipe “yes” or “no” on other members. When you “yes” someone who has also said “yes” to you, the application allows you to message each other within its interface.

 

Powerhouse Lawyer Ervin Gonzalez Found Dead In His Home In Suspected Suicide

One of  South Florida’s top civil litigator was found dead in his home on Thursday, and according to authorities, his passing is being investigated by police as a suicide

Ervin Gonzalez, a graduate of the University of Miami Law School, was a partner at Colson Hicks Eidson, where he played substantive roles in a number of high-profile cases, including but not limited to the BP oil spill class-action and the Chinese drywall multidistrict litigation. At the time of his death, Gonzalez had accumulated 33 verdicts of at least $1 million, many of them in the top verdicts in America. Gonzalez was also a leader in the legal community, having served as a member of the Florida Bar’s board of governors as well as its executive committee.

Dean Colson of Colson Hicks Eidson released this statement to the Southern District of Florida Blog after discovering that Gonzalez had passed:

We are deeply saddened by the passing of Ervin A. Gonzalez, our beloved partner, friend and role model. Words cannot convey our grief, admiration, or affection for this pillar of our community. Our hearts and prayers go out to his wife Janice and his family and friends during this unfathomable time. A caring, warm, brilliant and masterful trial attorney, he set the standard for the profession in his compassion and vigorous advocacy for those who suffered grievances and injustices at the hands of others. He will be remembered for his intellect, skill and ability to befriend and defend the rights of people from all walks of life with a zest and dedication that was unrivaled. Ervin’s passing reminds all of us that mental illness can strike anyone regardless of how accomplished or content they might appear. Like the Ervin we all knew and loved, he valiantly fought this personal challenge with unmatched effort. He simply was unable to win his hardest and final trial. It pains us to know he was suffering so terribly beyond his control.

We here at Above the Law would like to extend our thoughts and sympathies to Ervin Gonzalez’s family, friends, and colleagues during this difficult time.

If you’re depressed and in need of help, please call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (1-800-273-8255). Remember that you are loved, so please reach out if you need assistance, before it’s too late. Don’t become a statistic — seek help.

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Fell in love in Brazil…now what? Judy Torres gives her advice!

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The Freestyle Legend con un corazón de oro!

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Dear Judy,

I went Brazil a few months ago and as you can only guess…I fell in love. I am partly disappointed in myself for allowing this to happen. I am usually against this kind of thing—the whole long distance relationship thing.

So, my handsome Brazilian says that I should either move in with him in Recife or we could work things out so that he can come live with me here in Queens.

I’m just torn because there is no one here that comes close to him in any way. I am half Brazilian too and he brings out the best part of me…the Brazilian side :) We are pretty perfect together. Sadly, I have seen people get used in these types of relationships. But I have also seen these situations work out beautifully.

If you have a crystal ball in your handbag, can you take it out and tell me how things are looking for me and my man?

Obrigada,

Belinda

Judy Torres
Dear Brazilian Beauty!!

When it comes to love, we cannot help whom we fall in love with. Long distance relationships can be exciting. We are away from home, out of our element, and many times we experience a temporary lapse of sanity, resulting in breaking many of our own rules. Being in a different place allows us to relax, and be a little less inhibited.

My crystal ball is hazy on this. I cannot see clearly at all and perhaps neither can you. So, my dear, my advice is to take a year or two to get to know one another. Next time you see your boyfriend, have him come visit here. Let him see your American lifestyle first. Now, if you decide to take the dive, then I would say let him come to you. He’s a man, and when a man wants a woman he will do anything to have her.

Loving someone is a risk. You can fly and soar and have happily ever after, or you can crash and burn. BUT, you will walk away with wisdom, and you will not have to live with wondering “what if”. Just do it in a smart way. You don’t want to go to Brazil and be without friends and family who can be the little angels on your shoulders, warning you if they see danger. Be smart about going forward, and protect yourself.

All the best,

Judy

Selena Gomez interested in Older Men!

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Selena Gomez has expressed interest in dating older men, however she feels that older men may not feel the same due to her very young appearance.

In a recent interview, Gomez revealed that while she would be interested in dating men who are older she feels that the feeling may not be mutual because she still looks like a teenager.

I feel like I look 16 sometimes, which is a bummer because I would love to date older guys,” the 23-year-old singer/actress revealed.

When it comes to her youthful appearance, the former Disney Channel star has made critical remarks about her teenage appearance. Back in October, while appearing on Bravo’s Watch What Happens Live Gomez made a similar comment to host Andy Cohen when asked if she was dating a fellow celebrity.

Now I know I look 16, but I’m 24,” Gomez told Cohen after he asked if she were romantic tied with David & Victoria Beckham’s 16-year-old son Brooklyn Beckham.

Age in years or appearance aside, in the interview Gomez also revealed that dating and meeting new guys in-general is particularly hard for her because her life has been a source of entertainment gossip which makes dating quite hard.

It’s hard, and I’m weirded out by the idea that a guy has Googled me before we meet, and that has happened,” Gomez describes, “I never intended for my life to become a tabloid story.”

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Dominican Designer EMILIO SOSA Reimagines Rockettes Costumes For New Era

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Originally published in LatinTRENDS magazine

By Christine Stoddard

When Emilio Sosa was three years old, his family made the great pilgrimage from Santo Domingo to The Bronx—and stayed. Their exodus was, as Sosa puts it, an effort to chase after the “American Dream.”“But we struggled,” he told LatinTRENDS at a recent press event.

Now Sosa, 43, who you may recognize from Season 7 of “Project Runway,” is designing for the iconic Rockettes—or,as he tells it, achieving that American Dream.Despite his early struggles,the young Dominican-American began studying art early and eventually become a TONY Award-nominated costume and fashion designer.

“My mother, bless her,never let me  go without,” he said. “I always had art supplies.” Sosa added that though it wasn’t easy for his father to accept this artistic dreams, he did.This year, the Rockettes New York Spectacular will open June 15 and run through August 7. In 2015, the show sold nearly 300,000 tickets over the course of its eight-week run. Previously,the show was called the New York Spring Spectacular, but has been rescheduled for the summer to accommodate the tourists that flock to the city then.

During the summer months, New York City sees a significant increase in tourism and shifting the production will provide an opportunity for even more people to experience this dazzling musical celebration starring the Rockettes,” said David O’Connor, president and CEO of The Madison Square Garden Company, in a press release.Sosa joins a long legacy of costume designers and other theatre artists whose work has made the Rockettes an American stage classic.But even though the precision dance company has performed at Radio City Music Hall in Manhattan since 1932, nothing about the show feels old.The Rockettes have gotten a major makeover. The show has been modernized for a contemporary American audience that loves today’s pop music and threads from a fashion-forward thinker.But Sosa isn’t giving anything away about the new looks.

“Come to Manhattan,” he said. “You have to see this show.”

 

 

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Relationship Trends in America!

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Relationship Trends in America!

 

  • 48% of men are most likely to fall in love at first sight than woman who rated in at 28% ( makes sense verdad?)
  • 33% more men than woman are bothered if their partners aren’t more romantic (this is surprising, isn’t it?)
  • Couples who earn $20,000 or less argue less frequently compared to those who earn $250,000 to $500,000 ( hum…)
  • 57% of those in an unhappy relationship still finds partner attractive
  • Successful marriages center their relationship with God (Amen!)
  • 33% Considered breaking-up after watching a TV show or movie (choose what you watch carefully!)

 

We would like to hear your thoughts on this matter. Feel free to share your opinion below.

Remembering The Great Oscar de la Renta

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Legendary fashion designer Oscar de la Renta died on Monday at age 82, according to multiple reports.

The Dominican Republic born fashion designer made the most exquisite dresses for first ladies, movie stars and high profile brides. George Clooney’s wife, Amal Alamuddin, was de la Renta’s most recent bride to dress.

Oscar de la Renta has been battling cancer since 2006, but the cause of his death has not been revealed.

De la Renta has dressed first ladies since Jaqueline Kennedy wore his designs during the 60s, which propelled him to start his own brand in 1965. He continued to design beautiful gowns for Betty Ford, Nancy Reagan, Laura Bush and Hilary Clinton. Earlier this year an exhibit showcased Oscar de la Renta’s “Five Decades of Style” demonstrating “the First Lady as our country’s official hostess to world leaders and diplomats and as a trendsetter in style [and] fashion,” stated the museum, the George W. Bush Presidential Center in Texas.

Red carpet events that were adorned by movie stars that wore Oscar de la Renta designs will still experience the New York based brand with Peter Copping as the new creative director, who was just appointed last week.

Street Art & The Latinos That Influenced The Culture of Writers

By Ottoniel Campos
Originally published in LatinTRENDS Magazine

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Before hipsters scattered around urban areas like organic roaches. Before Bansky. Before 3-D images, bubble, boxed and futuristic typography sprayed on subway cars were called street art by mainstream art collectors and gallery curators, the 1970s spurred an army of devoted graffiti artists called “writers” who just wanted to showcase their art, talent and bomb their names all over New York City.

OK, so bomb and New York City is not the thing to say, especially after September 2011. But during the ‘70s and ‘80s the term “bombing” meant that your tag, name or artwork was spray-painted on one of the Metropolitan Transit Authority’s subways that traveled all over the concrete jungle of New York City. Along with break dancing, DJing and rapping, writers no older than 19, considered this unlawful, risky and dangerous act as one of the four elements of hiphop.
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One of the pioneers who paved the way in creative expression while using his name as a tool to capture the attention of haters, fanatics and subway riders oblivious to the incoming artistry arriving at their station is Lee Quiñones. The Puerto Rican-born and Lower East Side-raised Quiñones debuted his unsolicited artistry in 1974. His underground fame became mainstream once “Wild Style,” a 1984 film that followed a group of New York graffiti writers and hip-hop artists, hit theaters. By the late ‘80s he was already selling urban style art pieces in galleries all over New York City. The graffiti icon is not only immortalized by films and documentaries but also by the art book “Subway Art,” which is one of the top selling art books to date.

The film “Wild Style” also featured Sandra Fabara, better known as Lady Pink. This Ecuadorian writer, who was raised in Queens and graduated from the High School of Art & Design in New York City, made her mark in the male dominated graffiti world from 1979 to 1985. Like most writers, Lady Pink traveled and entered the darkest and most dangerous subway tunnels to display her artistry. Quickly, the graffiti community recognized her creativity and fearlessness. Now, more than 30 years later, the respected, beloved and admired Lady Pink is still a highly sought-after painter, muralist and graffiti writer with works featured in art galleries, museums and sponsored building walls all over the U.S.

Most associate the history of graffiti with only New York. But Philadelphia, D.C. and Los Angeles also had writers showcasing their talents on billboards and vacant buildings. During the early ‘70s Mexican-American Chaz Bojórquez brought his style of Asian calligraphy and the Chicano graffiti style of the ‘50s to the streets of East Los Angeles. Bojórquez is now considered the godfather of The “Cholo”-style letters seen on the hoods of pimped-out rides, motorcycle jackets and tattoos that usually goes along with an image of a skull or a red rose placed next to them.

Ask Judy: Am I TOO Latina For My Co-Workers?

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Dear Judy,

I have recently begun a new job at a fashion house that is pretty recognizable. It’s a European fashion corporation and I am one of the VERY few Latinas here. I am a natural woman with curly hair, makeup limited to mascara and lip-gloss, and a curvy figure. I feel confident in my abilities but I would like to connect with my co-workers.

The problem is that we have nothing in common. I grew up in “the hood” and they grew up in cozy cul de sacs. I am proud of my curves and they eat edamame for lunch. I just don’t have anything in common with these Barbie doll co-workers.

What can I do to connect? I feel like failing to connect will hinder my progress in the company and I don’t want to seem antisocial.

Sola en este cubicle,
Yolanda

 

Hola, Yolanda!!

Congratulations on your new job!! You go, girl! Believe it or not, I know how you feel..I too am a natural woman with curly hair, and I always say I may be chunky, but I’m funky! I read your letter today, and shortly after, I went to a zumba class, where I found myself the only Latina there as well. I looked around: Caucasian, African-American, Indian and Asian…what a mixture!! I could tell all the ladies were regulars, but it was my first time there. So, I decided to do all the things I suggest you do.

Instead of feeling uncomfortable that I was the only Latina, I was happy. In my mind, I told myself, “I’m going to show these women how much fun I can be!” So there I was, shaking my booty, and yelling out, “Wepaaaa!” And in a few minutes some of the ladies were hooting and hollering with me. Some looked at me as if I was a strange alien, but I didn’t care. And that’s what you need to do.

Yolanda, you were hired because you are obviously very talented and the right person for the job. Perhaps your company felt it was time to bring in someone new, someone Latina. This is your chance to show them…to represent us. Be yourself. If you try to be anything else so you can “fit in,” you are going to find yourself disliked. People can see through fakeness.

I bet as time passes, they will appreciate your uniqueness. And remember if you don’t love yourself first, no one else will love you. So flaunt that curly hair and curvy figure!! I can tell already you are absolutely beautiful! Wepaaaa!!!

Love,
Judy

How to Flirt, According to Science

 

By Kimberly Moffit

USE FLIRTATIOUS BODY LANGUAGE

Most of the lasting impression we make on others is related to our body language, while only 7% is related to what we actually SAY! If you want to be approached in a bar, sit up straight with your shoulders back. Studies show that this way you’re more likely to be viewed as approachable. Be sure to not close yourself off physically, making you appear standoffish. Mirroring your partner’s body language also signals interest and intimacy. If you’re interested in someone, whether on the train, at Starbucks or at the gym, cross your legs toward as opposed to away. Lean in. And don’t be afraid to let your hands do the talking!

USE GENTLE TOUCH

Touch is important to effective flirting, because while words are processed through the “thinking” part of our brains, touch goes directly to our emotional centers. Touch can immediately heighten arousal, so touching your date/partner’s hand, arm, hair or hip initiates physical contact which immediately ups the ante leading to passion. The right time to lightly brush your crush’s arm or shoulder is when they are giving you physical indicators of interest, such as smiling and prolonged eye contact.

USE YOUR EYES

Eyes are historically known as the most magnetic part of one’s personality. Large eyes signal high fertility from a biological perspective and this may explain why study after study shows that women with larger eyes are seen as more attractive. This is why batting the eyelashes has been used for centuries to get attention as well as make the eyes stand out. You can also try looking your crush in the eye for a few seconds to get their attention.

USE YOUR LIPS!

Smiling, puckering, pursing, licking, and biting are all subtle but VERY effective ways to draw attention to your lips and get your date thinking about kissing them. RED lips also go a long way. Ovulating women have redder lips than when they’re not ovulating; making red lips an evolutionary preferable trait!

LAST BUT NOT LEAST – WEAR RED

People who wear red on first dates are statistically more likely to get into a relationship. The color red actually stimulates the heart to beat faster and has a tendency to evoke confidence in the person wearing it. Our brains are also conditioned to think ‘sexy’ when we see someone wearing red.

Kimberly Moffit is often recognized for her E! News and VH1 appearances. She has become one of the most sought after relationship experts. Additionally, Moffit shares her expert advice through the Huffington Post and Millionaire Matchmaker Patti Stanger’s blog.

 

[Originally published in LatinTRENDS Magazine]