Ask Judy: Am I TOO Latina For My Co-Workers?

Judy Torres

Ask Judy


Dear Judy,

I have recently begun a new job at a fashion house that is pretty recognizable. It’s a European fashion corporation and I am one of the VERY few Latinas here. I am a natural woman with curly hair, makeup limited to mascara and lip-gloss, and a curvy figure. I feel confident in my abilities but I would like to connect with my co-workers.

The problem is that we have nothing in common. I grew up in “the hood” and they grew up in cozy cul de sacs. I am proud of my curves and they eat edamame for lunch. I just don’t have anything in common with these Barbie doll co-workers.

What can I do to connect? I feel like failing to connect will hinder my progress in the company and I don’t want to seem antisocial.

Sola en este cubicle,


Hola, Yolanda!!

Congratulations on your new job!! You go, girl! Believe it or not, I know how you feel..I too am a natural woman with curly hair, and I always say I may be chunky, but I’m funky! I read your letter today, and shortly after, I went to a zumba class, where I found myself the only Latina there as well. I looked around: Caucasian, African-American, Indian and Asian…what a mixture!! I could tell all the ladies were regulars, but it was my first time there. So, I decided to do all the things I suggest you do.

Instead of feeling uncomfortable that I was the only Latina, I was happy. In my mind, I told myself, “I’m going to show these women how much fun I can be!” So there I was, shaking my booty, and yelling out, “Wepaaaa!” And in a few minutes some of the ladies were hooting and hollering with me. Some looked at me as if I was a strange alien, but I didn’t care. And that’s what you need to do.

Yolanda, you were hired because you are obviously very talented and the right person for the job. Perhaps your company felt it was time to bring in someone new, someone Latina. This is your chance to show them…to represent us. Be yourself. If you try to be anything else so you can “fit in,” you are going to find yourself disliked. People can see through fakeness.

I bet as time passes, they will appreciate your uniqueness. And remember if you don’t love yourself first, no one else will love you. So flaunt that curly hair and curvy figure!! I can tell already you are absolutely beautiful! Wepaaaa!!!




En medio de prensa, luces, cámaras y decenas de seguidores el famoso exponente de Bachata Pop TOBY LOVE presento formalmente al publico de Nueva York su nuevo sencillo titulado ”Entra en mi Vida”.

Tobby Love es famoso por sus fusiones y mezclas de la tradicional bachata dominicana con ritmos urbanos como el R&B y Hip Hop. Una fusión que el artista a denominado “Crunkchata” – música romántica , corta venas con influencia de soul y jazz norteamericano.

El artista de origen puertorriqueño promociona el quinto sencillo de este álbum.“Entra en mi Vida” es un tema originalmente grabado por el grupo mexicano SIN BANDERA llega con nuevos arreglos vestido de bachata y trópico e interpretado por Toby junto al cantante Karlos Rose.


Los inicios del este popular cantante se remontan al año 2000 cuando comenzó como vocalista del popular grupo AVENTURA , donde permaneció hasta comenzar su Carrera como solista en el 2006 y lograr posicionarse como uno de los artistas mas exitosos del genero.

Tobby Love ya ha obtenido dos codiciados premios Billboards y varias nominaciones a importantes premios internacionales.

“Entra En MI Vida”es uno de los temas incluidos en el popular álbum BACHATA NATION” lanzado conjuntamente con Elegante Records y que ya ha ocupado los primeros lugares de popularidad.

Sin lugar a dudas, TOBY LOVE con su estilo romántico y su voz melodiosa se perfila indiscutiblemente como el nuevo rostro internacional de la bachata

JLo shares her ‘True Love’ secrets!

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Who comes to mind when say these words? Icon, Latina, singer, actress, fashion designer, and NY. If you thought of JENNIFER LOPEZ, you are correct. As if this busy diva doesn’t have enough on her plate, we can now add author to that list.

Currently in promotion of her autobiography, ‘True Love’, Jlo shares her most deepest emotions with her intense relationships with Marc, Ben and a others. JLo talked about her breakup with actor Ben Affleck which at that time were known to us as ‘Beniffer’. During that time she maintained a relationship for 10 years with Grammy Winning superstar, Marc Anthony.

“Ben was probably my first great unrequited love, and having one of my best friends Marc , whom I had known for years, and who in fact I loved and I had chemistry with, come to my life and say ‘ I’m here!'” says Jlo

“What we need to know is that no one can save you or cure you . Only you can do that for you, I’m open to love but now think it’s better to be alone for a minute to learn more about me .” says this NYrican.

In addition to Affleck , and Marc Anthony , Jenny from the block past relationships with Cuban model and actor, Ojani Noa , Hip Hop Artist and business entrepreneur, Diddy and dancer/choreographer, Cris Judd, Marc Anthony and Casper Smart. All relationships that she learned from and she truly has no regrets. After all you can’t control who you fall in love with right?

“Someone could look at my life from the outside and think that everything was wonderful. She had a husband and two beautiful children. It was on ‘Idol ‘ and my single ‘ On The Floor’ was in the No. 1 position worldwide. But what people did not know was that my life was not happy. My relationship was falling apart and I was scared , “he says .
“I do not think I can stick with Marc ” says Jlo.

“When things do not work and you are not trying the way you want them to treat you , stop and analyze things because it’s not anyone’s fault , but yours ,” reflects on ‘True Love’

Jen’s autobiography depicts her human side. Her heartfelt emotional side. The one that cries, loves, is angry. The one that is on her sofa with fleece wrapped around her and her family wiping her tears of the heartache of the breakups. Which to her defense, we all do it. We all have our ‘He’s The One!’ moments then we come to realize he’s not. Whether it was a betrayal or just an illusion of an emotion that was never there.

Regardless it hurts. And not just us, it hurts the other party involved as well. We all make mistakes. We all have regrets. But one thing we always fail to remember is that when going into a relationship, we should start as who we are, not who we assume the interested party wants us to be. Because at the end of the day, mix emotions and illusions is why the myth of ‘the good part of the relationship is the first 3 month’s’ is recycled. Because we are not who we really are. It not only confuses them, it confuses you as well and at the end we suffer a broken heart not because they are not the one but because we lost more then just a future mate, we lost a friend.

I can’t wait to pick up this book. Its definitely one that most of us can relate too. Not only would it be a great learning experience but a portion of the funds will go to The Lopez Family Foundation, founded in the interest of the health and welfare of women and children.

Dating The Day After Halloween

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Granted, Halloween was yesterday, but there’s still some Halloween fun to be had, especially if you’re in New York City. So, if you’re considering going on a date, why not incorporate some Halloween spunk? Whether you choose to rock your costume, a second costume, or no costume, there are plenty of options.

Do the traditional thing. Go to dinner, but opt for a place that turns from restaurant to lounge. This way you’ll have a shot of enjoying a Halloween party right after dinner. Miami Beach in Washington Heights is one option, but there are many restaurants that do the same.

Break tradition. Go bar-hopping with your new date. Start on Fulton in Manhattan and work your way down to various clubs. It’s near the East Village, so you know plenty of folks will still be out celebrating. Some bars even have Halloween parties after a certain hour.

Go on an unplanned adventure. Walk through Times Square or another major part of New York City and select the activity that arises, from an impromptu comedy show to all sources of entertainment.

Perhaps it’s time to let go of the same old date and experience something on the edgier side.

What dating ideas come to mind for the day after Halloween? Let us know below or send us a tweet @LatinTRENDS2010.

Latin Pop Artist, ‘Thalia’ Is The Queen of Hearts


Latin Pop Artist, Actress and Entrepreneur, Thalía recently released her single ‘Por Lo Que Reste De Vida’, which is part of her latest production album ‘Amore Mío.’

From the moment I was introduced to the song, I completely fell in love with it and knew immediately that I wanted to sing it and give it life,” says Thalia.

To much surprise Thalia presented her fans with the video ‘Por Lo Que Reste De Vida’ with scenes shot in the beautiful Big Apple right outside her former residence. Leading creative producer Carlos Perez along with his team to capture amazing footage with full imagery of these amazing lyrics composed by Ricky Montaner. ‘Por Lo Que Reste De Vida’ depicted by Thalia truly tells an emotional story of unconditional love, a pure romance through these passionate lyrics.

Shooting this video while working with Carlos Perez and his team was a wonderful experience. The chemistry on stage was amazing and I have genuine respect and admiration for Carlos as a person and an producer,” added Thalia.

This video illustrates a story of eternal love. The timeline of memories of two people growing up together, having genuine love each other and sharing a special friendship.

Thalia put great effort, heart and soul into her new project. Behind closed doors with renowned Mexican producer Armando Avila, she shared her most personal experiences recording an album that only her dearest fans would relate too.

” …the kind that transcend time and borders,” she added.

Is It Okay To Date More Than One Person At Once?

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In the past, it was common for people to date one person at once. The idea was that you’d give the person you were seeing a fair chance, and if things didn’t work out, then you’d move on to the next one. For a while, it appeared that this was the way that things should be, but with the addition of dating websites, social networks, and simply put, technology, it’s getting harder to decipher what’s acceptable and what’s not.

Is there a precise “formula” for dating? How long should you see one person before moving on to the next one? Furthermore, is it okay to date more than one person at once? And while dating more than one person may seem like an appealing concept from afar, what happens when you find out you’re number two or three on the totem pole? Does your perception of a serial dater then differ?

While dating two people from say, your job, could get potentially messy, we don’t see anything wrong with getting to know more than one person at the same time. The key is to be upfront. Let the people you’re seeing know you’re seeing other people. Truth is, if you’re intensely drawn to one person, you’ll end up becoming exclusive.

What do you think about dating more than one person at the same time? Do you think it’s rude or immoral? A recipe for disaster? We want to know what you think! Leave a comment below or send us a tweet @LatinTRENDS2010.

Choosing The Dating App That’s Right For You

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If you’re looking to meet new people but don’t want your friends to be your wingmen, then dating apps are the way to go. Not only are you in control of who you spend time chatting with, but it’s your choice whether you eventually meet this person or not. After the first date, if the chemistry is nonexistent, then there’s no pressure to meet again. After all, it wasn’t one of your friends who set you up. Of course, the real dilemma then becomes, with so many dating apps to choose, which one do you select?

Because we understand the struggle, we’ve broken down some of the most popular options, explaining what sets each apart:

Coffee Meets Bagel limits you to one bagel (person to get to know) per day. Most users find that this takes the “buffet” feel away from dating apps and gives it a less superficial feel.

Grouper puts a twist on the dating shtick. It’s a social club that sets up drinks and games between 3 guys and 3 girls. There’s a small fee of $20 per person. The first round of drinks is on the app, the rest of the night is up to the team.

How About We lets users propose dates others can opt into. So if, for example, you’ve had this idea of going on a karaoke date, you can write it out and wait to see who chooses to join you in your singing adventure.

Match remains one of the most popular options amidst dating apps. The app matches local users based on algorithms.

OkCupid is promoted as a social network and dating app. It lets you get in touch with people in your area based on interests.

Tinder lets you swipe “yes” or “no” on other members. When you “yes” someone who has also said “yes” to you, the application allows you to message each other within its interface.

Are you ready to give dating apps a try? If so, which one do you think you’ll use? We want to know what your experience is like. Share below or send us a tweet @LatinTRENDS2010.

Romantic Evening @ Radio City w/ Roberto Carlos

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Upon walking on stage, Roberto Carlos was received with a loud applause from thousands of people in Radio City Music Hall. With a strong admiration to his fans, this Brazilian singer began his concert with an ode to love singing his famous hits in the language of Portuguese. “Jesús Cristo” “Lady Laura” ” Detalles” “Amada Amante” y “Cama y Mesa” and ” Cóncavo y Convexo” He Also sang “El Dia Que Me Quieria” and “El Gato En La Oscuridad” in Spanish.

During this romantic evening, Roberto sarranated the audience backed by a full orchestra with a stage display of a lights that resembled a starry nights with light strobs.

Before each song he shared moments of his life filled with humor, and romanticism. With twinkles in his eyes every word leading to melody of this next performance left a nostalgic feelings in our hearts.

Roberto Carlos left the stage with heart on his sleeve, blowing kisses as he was escorted off the stage receiving an standing ovation and “Te quiero’s” from the adoring fans. He was so moved he returned during his farewell for one final goodbye.

Enrique Iglesias Sex! Sex! & More Sex!


When you think of Enrique Iglesias what crosses your mind? Hot and Steamy am I right? Well, that’s what crosses my mind. ;) When he’s on stage belting his lyrics with that sexy ‘mirada, Oh My! Oh My! Oh Dear! It makes me think he is dedicating those words to me for that brief moment.

A girl can dream can’t she? lol

Love and Sex are the perfect words to describe this Latin heartthrob. Why not make it the album title? Enrique has released hit after hit. Each one dedicated to his self expression of passion in many different positions.

‘Bialando’ has been rated the #1 in numerous charts and continues to break records. The hottest single of the Album ‘Sex And Love ‘, the second part of ‘ Euphoria’. Enrique’s sizzling recipe to combine in One album several songs with varous degrees of increased sensual passion and the consistency of rhythmic style is the perfect recipe for foreplay and air play.

As hard as it was for be to believe, i was told Enrique was skeptical to release such a sexual album. However, after a few nights of reminiscing of his past romantic singles it took no arm twisting to convince Enrique ‘Love And Sex’ was a history maker and barrier breaker.

‘Bailando’ became one of the 10 most downloaded songs on iTunes.

This phenomenon with over 100 million albums sold, has overcome criticism and questions over his artistic ability to express his form of love for the music and for the warmth and excitement of a partner. I definitely have no criticism. Express Away Enrique!!

Enrique is smart and sexy and in addition to have a great head of hair he has a great head on his shoulders. He prefers not to include alcohol in a night of passion. It causes problems under the covers, apparently liquor doesn’t make him feel in control. WHAT A FREAK!!

More Fun and more romantic when you remember what you did the next morning. lol!

Despite the eye candy he is to so many fans, Enrique states he’s not interested in casual encounters.

He’s made ​​it clear his view on the double standard that is applied between women and men when judging their relationships.

“If a man lies with a lot of women , it is the best , but a girl does the same , its wrong?? Its not fair!

I personally thought he was a womanizer but he appears to be the whole package of hotness, humor and hero to defending women with double standards.

“… I honestly believe it’s difficult for love to survive without sex.” – Amen to that! lol

Three Romantic Things To Do On Your Next Vacation

Whether you’re traveling to say Venezuela or any other part of Latin America, chances are you’re traveling with your significant other. If you are, there are a few things you can do together to make your getaway an immensely romantic one.

Go for a walk on the beach. It may seem simple, almost easy to miss, but a walk on the beach can be a calming and memorable activity. Moreover, if you do it in the morning when the beach is empty, or at night when everyone’s back in their hotel room, it’s a romantic memory to share.

Costa de Oro, Ecuador (Image Via Pathfinder International)

Costa de Oro, Ecuador (Image Via Pathfinder International)

Carve your names on a tree. Engraving your names together can bring you even closer. Just imagine: years later you can revisit the location to see your names…still together.

Isla Saona, Dominican Republic (Image via Dominican Republic Real Estate)

Isla Saona, Dominican Republic (Image via Dominican Republic Real Estate)

Create a map of your vacation with small but meaningful memories. Think of it like a scrapbook! Work on it on your way back home.