by: Carmelina Vargas
For some reason or the other, we are bombarded by advertised images of super slim women on a daily basis. Are these images perpetuating the lack of self esteem in our daughters and in you?
Day after day we are reminded that unless you don’t have the “ideal” skinny body the advertisers portray, and WANT YOU TO HAVE (while wanting to make money by selling us a dream) then you are NOT beautiful.
This is a BIG FAT lie because beauty resides in you.
Although sometimes it may appear hard not to succumb to what advertisers sell us (because of their consistent manipulation and greed) one should learn from a very young age or at time moment, that external beauty is more than one tangible aspect in a woman.
Our daughters should also learn that being smart and athletic is also beautiful. Learning to play an instrument or being a tomboy is beautiful. They should also learn how to go about having “healthy” bodies instead of wasting all their energy trying to be skinny.
Most women never stay a particular size because life is very demanding on our bodies. We must be true to ourselves.
Learn to love yourself from the inside and outside as well. Aesthetics do not rule the world. Don’t let it rule yours.
We must find a balance between the external and internal and witness this beauty and share it with others. Our spiritual health is just as important as our physical health. If there is anything so special in this world is the fact that women come in all shapes and sizes. We are all beautiful.
We should aim for less criticism and give more compliments. We need that. Let’s help teach our daughters, nieces, friends etc. find exactly what makes them special. Some of us have curly hair, some straight. Some of us our are brown, light-skinned, black, fair-skinned and we are all beautiful. Our offspring needs guidance. Beauty begins from within.
Our differences make us dynamic and more attractive to others.
One strange behavior I’ve encountered is the pressure of another person wanting YOU to be want THEY want you to be. Demonstrating this behavior expresses a lack of self-esteem on their part.
Please, let us define ourselves.
Here is some examples how you can define your unique beauty – inside out:
• Know who you are
• Explore your special talents
• Learn what styles work best with your body shape
• Eat healthy
• Exercise regularly
• Experiment with makeup and color
• Be yourself
• Love yourself, always
Do not let an advertiser belittle your self-esteem. It is really up to us – the eye of the beholder.
Whatever they are trying to sell; don’t buy it.