My husband and I are part of your mature audience…meaning we’re old folks. We’ve been together for almost twenty years and I thank God for every single moment of our lives together. Now, even though I am old—I’m not dead. Things in the bedroom have been pretty stale for some time and I am wondering if a pretty young girl like you can give an old lady like me some advice.
What I want to know is—what can I do to get my husband all hot and bothered again? We’ve fallen into such a routine.
Viva el amor!
Sometimes in life, what we want, we have to give. If you want love, give love. If you want to not feel lonely, you give companionship to someone else. Now, if you want a break from routine, you need to do something wild and spontaneous. If you want your husband to be hot and bothered again, you need to get hot and bothered. Why not take him out on a date night? Think like a man. Not like a woman. Don’t think about wining and dining him. Think about doing something to make him laugh, like a comedy club. Then feed him—take him to his favorite bar. Get a beer, some wings, let him watch a game. At some point during the night, text him something naughty. Be VERY naughty. Be explicit.
In other words, do the opposite of what you’ve been doing. Flirt a little on the way home. And when you get home, have a scavenger hunt. Have him search for certain items in the bedroom and when he finds each one, he gets a reward. Play it up. Do some role-play. Wear a costume. Pretend. Just have fun. You know your husband better than anyone. You know what will excite him…do that, and then some. Stop worrying about being old.
And by the way, I will tell you, that there are many people out there who would LOVE to have a predictable relationship with lots of routine. What you have is solid—you’ve been married almost 20 years…you must be doing something right. I will tell you what my fiancé told me actually just last night. He said, “I’m in a relationship because I want to be comfortable. I want to be with the same woman over and over again. I feel most comfortable when I do that.” So here’s to love. Here’s to comfort. Go pamper yourself. Get your hair and nails done, get a facial, get a massage. When you start feeling sexier, so will he. You are not old—you are experienced. You know who you are, and that is sexy! He loves you. Believe that.